Sedentary

We moved to Athens, Georgia, a year ago and we are still ambivalent about the wisdom of ripping up our roots and moving out of state at our age. I was eighty when we made the decision to get out of Hurricane Alley and seek refuge in a safer haven, but the move has taken well over a year and our transition is far from complete. We are perturbed with our inability to feel at home in our newly adopted state.

My wife and I spent the last forty-five years or so participating in the annual Florida six-month long Hurricane watch party, the weather alerts that start at the beginning of the hurricane season, just about the time school ends and wraps up just after Thanksgiving. The intense peak is always around Labor Day Weekend when everyone sits in front of the television watching the Weather Channel worrying where the current storm is going to make landfall. Hurricane David planted the first serious fear in us during Labor Day weekend in 1979. After doing what meager preparations we could to our townhouse, we went to bed expecting to be hit directly sometime during the night. The dangerous storm capriciously spared us and we woke up to singing birds and gentle breezes. There were multiple scares before Hurricane Andrew hit Miami in 1992 and our two-car, hurricane reinforced garage door blew in and wrapped around the car parked inside. Our daughter fared far worse: her condominium only fifteen miles away was destroyed completely. Not just damaged, but red-tag destroyed. She relocated to Georgia, not too far from Atlanta, to finish her final year of college. Her move gave us an excuse to travel up north to visit every chance we got.

We thought we would be just spectators to the annual ritual after moving to Port Charlotte on Florida’s west coast after I retired, but we were wrong. We helplessly watched Hurricane Charley barrel toward us in 2003 before it too decided to follow a slightly different path at the last possible minute. While we missed a devastating direct hit by the storm’s eye-wall by about ten miles, we were clobbered directly by Ian in 2022. The big, heavy twenty five foot tall palmetto laying exactly twenty-eight inches from our bedroom in the aftermath was the very big straw that broke the camel’s back. Time to leave the watch party. So, where to go? Out of harm’s way, of course, but someplace where the weather is mild, if not warm in the winter. No snow or ice storms, no life threatening environmental issues. The best part of the move would be living closer to our daughter and her family. While Georgia seemed to check all the boxes, we had a foreboding about the massive disruption to our lives. We wondered why Florida friends Ingrid and Richard moved from Port Charlotte to Asheville, North Carolina, only to move back to Florida after only two years. Another friend, Clyde, a muscular, urbane friend who moved to Charlotte, North Carolina, a few years ago, only made it a year before he also moved back to Florida. Why didn’t they make it “up north”?

There are many active retirement communities being developed across the state of Georgia, and we visited many of them in the twenty years we’ve been looking for a desirable alternative to Florida. From Hochston to Gainesville, from Peachtree to Greensboro, from Hiawasee to Tifton, we have pretty much covered Georgia. Many of these purposely designed communities are from companies such as Del Webb, Cresswind, and Lennar, specializing in “55+ Active Adult Communities.” They aren’t the only ones of course, but they are some of the predominate or most prolific developers. We were interested in the possibilities offered by most of these communities, and for many people they are the perfect answer. But we found they are not for us.

The unimaginative sideboard houses, all uniformly painted in a bland color palette, aligned precisely to maximize the profit of the smallest footprint possible, resemble a dreary and unappealing Army base. They are jammed together as selling the precious, squeezed, footprint of land is of foremost importance. The only thing missing are the big, white building numbers painted on the street side corner of each one. We found few one story or “ranch” style homes that were small enough for us that had any quality. It was not uncommon to find rows of visible nails that completely missed their support beams and studs, living room rugs our young granddaughter could pull up with her fingers, and gaps in the finish I could put my thumbs into. Small, more often than not, translates to cheap rather than affordable, garish rather than tasteful, and worst of all, crowded and exploited.

We read plans and covenants, by-laws and home owner association rules at every community and found the inescapable and often inexplicable petty rules and regulations seemed to be at the whim of an insulated higher power. Appearance and community standards are not only expected, but desired as well, but so is common sense. While most developments tend to specialize in club house activities closer aligned to our old style of Florida living, once you drive out the gates – which I would do on a regular basis – you would be back in reality. Florida, especially around the coastal areas, tends to be modern and accessible. We find much of America is simply stuck in the past of reluctance and denial, or at best, the fanciful anticipation of a distant future that has eluded the complacent.

Even in the highly successful Villages, a huge – it encompasses six zip codes – preplanned adult community in Florida, appropriately not far from Disney World, diversity reigns. Not in the residents, they are all predominately white from up north, but in the overall concept of the community. From styles and colors, neighborhood layouts and building design and construction, landscaping that would make even Frederick Law Olmsted envious, to blending what prospective residents assume is native Florida with civilization, they have succeeded in presenting a retirement image that has simply escaped the developers up north. Unfortunately, here again, once you drive out of the Villages, you meet apparent destitution and the mishmash that contrasts sharply with the meticulous, carefully developed residential island the newcomers live in. Very few of the newcomers to the area live outside the boundaries of the Villages.

We were fortunate to find a relatively inexpensive home in a rather unique area near Athens, Georgia. Our new home is a one-story, twenty-five year old brick townhouse with a two car garage with the privacy of woods facing the back of our house. Each home, although they all follow the same architectural guidelines, is distinctly different. The streets all end in a cul-de-sac so there is no through traffic, and yet we are only minutes from shopping and restaurants. There are restrictions against political signs, or any kind of yard signs, and an inexpensive home owners association that even offers a pool. We were fortunate to find the house just as it came on the market. We know we will be hard pressed to find a more desirable area or location, and we would not be able to replace our home for anywhere near what we paid for it.

Our biggest single disappointment with our new home is something we have to learn to master on our own: Winter. The sporadic sessions of summer terror have been replaced with the numbing dullness of perpetual inactivity in the winter. We do not like being enclosed inside for five months of the year. We do not like being cold. We do not like brown, lifeless landscape that is made worse by the depressing overcast and dreariness of the weather. We do not like being uncomfortable as a way of life.

Therein lies our dilemma. Stay or move back? What do we want out of our lives? Can we seriously face the prospect of enduring, or even surviving another Hurricane? We know the cost of homeowners insurance in Florida is fast becoming unobtainable. To top it off, our lifestyle and our bodies are no longer as flexible as in our youth. We know should our daughter and her family relocate somewhere else due to work or school, our attachment here will diminish greatly. Florida? Who knows, being snow birds certainly has its appeal. While summer in Florida is nerve wracking and often terrifying, winter here is boring and sedentary. The answer might be a balance between the two, living six months here and six months there. The best of both worlds, but then again, can I handle moving every six months?

Maybe we just need to go on a world cruise for a year. If we’re going to be sedentary, then let’s do it in style!

George